My Wedding May Kill Me
Okay so whoever said "oh wedding planning must be so fun!" is an idiot. Do I sound bitter??? Well maybe that's because I am at that point of working with the wedding planner and she says "and here's how much this will cost." The total is $20,000! I nearly wanted to throw up! How the hell am I going to afford a $20,000 wedding? I mean I know that that's not a lot of money for a wedding (my cousin's cost $60,000) but seriously. I was looking forward to a honeymoon, but now that's out the window. I am not even getting anything too fancy! WTF?
I know that all the married people out there know what I am going through and will know that at this point the LEAST helpful thing people can say to me is "oh well maybe you can not do this and do that." I always just want to say "f*#k you! Was I there trying to get you to compromise your wedding to save a few bucks?"
I know that I need to cut costs, but seriously I am not spending a lot of money on any one thing. I also know that my choice of a venue was the reason that my wedding cost so much, but I really didn't want to have my wedding at a hotel or a golf club. I have already compromised so much for everyone else and there are a few things that I won't compromise on (photographers and venue.) I didn't want a wedding like this, but I am having a more traditional wedding because that is what my family wanted, I am having a wedding at all because that is what my future husband wanted, so now I am here after spending a great deal of time trying to plan a wedding trying to keep costs down as much as I could and I am disappointed.
My plan for now is to see how much I could cut down on costs by making my reception a "cocktail reception" which should cut down on food costs and rentals, as I wouldn't need as many tables, an hopefully I can get that down into a more reasonable figure.
Oh and I should clarify I still know that $20,000 is a pretty normal amount for a wedding, but my future husband does not think so, I feel like Monica in this episode (watch the whole thing it's my life, only without the parent's beach house and the wedding book)
Oh and originally I was the one with the marriage line! I just love the the whole "If you call our wedding a party one more time, you may not get invited!" ha ha ha!
Hope you are all doing well! Much love!
I know that all the married people out there know what I am going through and will know that at this point the LEAST helpful thing people can say to me is "oh well maybe you can not do this and do that." I always just want to say "f*#k you! Was I there trying to get you to compromise your wedding to save a few bucks?"
I know that I need to cut costs, but seriously I am not spending a lot of money on any one thing. I also know that my choice of a venue was the reason that my wedding cost so much, but I really didn't want to have my wedding at a hotel or a golf club. I have already compromised so much for everyone else and there are a few things that I won't compromise on (photographers and venue.) I didn't want a wedding like this, but I am having a more traditional wedding because that is what my family wanted, I am having a wedding at all because that is what my future husband wanted, so now I am here after spending a great deal of time trying to plan a wedding trying to keep costs down as much as I could and I am disappointed.
My plan for now is to see how much I could cut down on costs by making my reception a "cocktail reception" which should cut down on food costs and rentals, as I wouldn't need as many tables, an hopefully I can get that down into a more reasonable figure.
Oh and I should clarify I still know that $20,000 is a pretty normal amount for a wedding, but my future husband does not think so, I feel like Monica in this episode (watch the whole thing it's my life, only without the parent's beach house and the wedding book)
Oh and originally I was the one with the marriage line! I just love the the whole "If you call our wedding a party one more time, you may not get invited!" ha ha ha!
Hope you are all doing well! Much love!
Comments
Good luck with all of this! I'm sure it will be absolutely lovely! ;)
Whatever you do, set some aside for the honeymoon. It really is worth it!
Hallie
And delicieux is right. Make sure you keep a few elements that are totally for YOU. Remember it is YOUR day so don't make everyone else happy and forget about yourself. :)
Hallie
It's impossible to make everyone happy, so make sure you do things you can live with and don't compromise on the most important stuff.
I'm pretty lucky that mine are paying for mine (whenever that happens) but that also means they get to pick the venue. The yacht club.
It also means that my dad might drop me off to my betrothed via his boat arriving at the dock. In my dress. Silly dad's dream but no way in hell am I going to let him choose that!
Anyway I agree on not compromising on Photography also - that is the most important thing to me. That and an open bar!