100th Post

So I had hoped to make this a momentous occasion, but nothing momentous really popped up, so I am going to talk about something that has really irked me.

I have spoken before about how much I love my family, they are the most important people in the world to me. When something is happening with one of them it really gets to me. ESPECIALLY when in indirectly involves me! Here's the deal; I have an Uncle who is an alcoholic. My Dad's side of the family all suffer from certain degrees of alcoholism (with the exception of my Dad who doesn't drink at all) but none as badly as this particular Uncle. He has a habit of getting trashed and ripping a strip off of people and breaking down crying while blaming EVERYONE for his problems, you know typical alcoholic behavior. Anyway with my pending nuptials my Dad called my Uncle to ask him not to drink at my wedding.

My Uncle took offense to this request and decided not to attend my wedding. This didn't exactly thrill me, but it was better than having him corner me and tell my what assholes his brothers and sisters are and how my grandmother only loved him(as opposed to loving all of her children), which is what happened the last few times that he came to a family event. Anyway, so he decided not to come and I thought that was that. Silly me I obviously forgot who I was dealing with.

My Uncle has chosen to air his grievances with this situation on Facebook of all places. First he wrote on my Dad's wall calling him all sorts of rude names and telling him how he's a controlling son of a bitch etc etc. He has also decided to tell everyone who would listen that he is unwelcome and that my Dad (whom he always refers to in an unfriendly manner) told him that he wasn't allowed to attend. Which may be half true, as I wasn't there to listen to my Dad's conversation I do not know if my Dad told my Uncle that he wasn't welcome if he chose to drink, but the truth of the matter was that no matter how the request was worded my Uncle chose alcohol over attending his neice's wedding.

The thing that pisses me off is that I now have to see all these insults toward my father on Facebook, and I have to see that he is saying that we have delcared him "personna non gratta," which is not what has happened. Now one could speculate that given my Uncle's knack for acting like an ass and ruining every family event that he has attended the recipients of his defamation would take everything he says with a grain of salt, but I am still upset. I just feel a need to call him on his BS because I have been seeing it every time I sign on to Facebook (gotta love the newsfeed!) I have "un-friended" him and I am trying to ignore it, but I want so badly to just reply to one of his comments so that at least our side of the story gets told as well. So here's my addition to his comments on Facebook. If I can't say it to him I at least want to get it off my chest.

"I would really appreciate you halting the defamation against my father and attempting to make people believe that we have asked you to stay away from my wedding. This is supposed to be a happy occasion and we as a family need that after all the sad occasions that have brought us together in recent years. I know that you cannot be honest about your decision not to come to the wedding because in doing so you would have to admit that you have a problem, so all I ask is that you stop talking about it all together."

Of course I know that by posting that comment or one similar I am really just making the situation worse, but I am still angry and a little hurt that things would turn out this way. At the end of the day he is still my Uncle and I have good memories of our relationship from before he was in this state, but now I feel like he is beyond hope.

So a pretty uninspiring 100th post, but maybe I will have more success with post 200!

Oh and Hallie, if I had to marry a muppet I would marry Animal because I have always had a thing for drummers!

See y'all on post 101! :)